By Kevin R Schultz

One Man Pity Party

02-07-2025

  In some ways this blog could go along with my loneliness blog. The major difference between loneliness and a pity party is that loneliness you may feel like you are all alone but you know that you are not, and that you can still talk to your friends.

  When you throw a one person pity-party it is just you. You start thinking, why me, why is this happening to me and then there is, is this ever going to stop. You don’t stop and think about anything or anybody but yourself.

  Let’s start the word pity and what it means…

Pity

PITY, n. [The Latin,Italian, Spanish and Portuguese languages unite pity and piety in the same word, and the word may be from the root of compassion; L. patior, to suffer.]

 1. The feeling or suffering of one person, excited by the distresses of another; sympathy with the grief or misery of another; compassion or fellow-suffering.

 He that hath pity upon the poor lendeth to the Lord. Prov 19.

 In Scripture however, the word pity usually includes

 compassion accompanied with some act of charity or benevolence, and not simply a fellow feeling of distress.

 PIT’Y, v.t. To feel pain or grief for one in distress; to have sympathy for; to compassionate; to have tender feelings for one, excited by his unhappiness.

 Like as a father pitieth his children, so the Lord pitieth them that fear him. Psa 103.

 Taught by that power who pities me,

 I learn to pity them.1

  Now we see pity can be a good thing as long as it is accompanied with sympathy, compassion, and empathy.

  Now when it comes to empathy, do not try give any to someone unless you have gone trough the same thing they are going through, for they will see right through you and anything you are trying to do will be ignored.

  So pity done right is a good thing, but what I did to myself when I had my one man pity-party, I stepped into something called self-pity, which was not a good place to be. And here is why.

  You can possibly bury yourself in depression, not wanting to anything but walling in your self-pity. When I was busy having my party I stopped going bible study, stopped going to church (which is a very good place to be when you are going through stuff), and I lost touch with my friends.

What got me out of the party was finding out several of my friends were going through some rough times of their own, and because I was out partying I was not available for them to call if they needed some help from me. And that hurt and snapped me back.

  Also not going to church and /or bible study I lost a connection to a lot of good Christian men and women. More importantly I lost my connection with God, even though He never gave up on me. I am going to list several verses in this blog that I have used in other blogs, however this time I am going to break them down and let you know what they are telling me. Hopefully this will help you out too.

Psalms 119:28 (NIV)

My soul is weary with sorrow; strengthen me according to your word.

28(a My soul is weary with sorrow

  Yes there are times I want just give up. It is hard to watch my wife slowly dying. Seeing her like this hurts, all the more because I can’t do anything about it. And yet it balances out because I know where she is going, and that is home with the Lord.

Please read… Psalms 6:7, 116:3; Isaiah 51:11; Jeremiah 45:3

28(b strengthen me

  God will give me all the strength I need to make it through this, and life. He will hold me up Himself when I need the support.

Please read… Psalms 18:1; Isaiah 40:29, 41:10

28(c according to your word.

  If we read our bibles on a daily basis we can receive God’s instruction on how to live our lives . We can receive further instructions at church , either through the message given at the service or even through out the service. We can never when God is going to speak to us. We should also join any bible study that is being offered. Also before we start anything, we should pray asking God for the wisdom to understand the knowledge we are about to gain.

Please read… Psalm 119:9

Philippians 4:13 (NIV) I can do all things through Him who gives me strength.

  God has strengthen me, He has gotten me through this pity party I was throwing for my self.

  And now God shine His light through me, the light that is Jesus Christ. He can now use me to reach out to others that are going through the same thing I am.

Please read… 2 Corinthians 12:9; Ephesians 3:16; Colossians 1:11; 1 Timothy 1:12; 2 Timothy 4:17

* A side note

  Please do not get lost in your trials. Do let yourself fall into the trap of self-pity. If you having problems please talk to someone. I do not want you to a self-pity party, it is a very lonely place to be.

  Christians please talk to family and friends. Talk to someone from your church, like a Pastor, a counselor, or some other trusted leader in your church. If you choose a counselor from outside the church and they tell you that God can’t help you, stay away from them. There are good biblical counselors out there.

  Christian and non-christian wives/girlfriends, husbands/boyfriends, and families be there for them. They need all the support they can get.