Koffee's House

Koffee’s Faith Journey

By

Kevin R Schultz

Helpless

07-30-2025

  I am going to talk about how being helpless is gnawing at me two different ways. And here they are.

1. Feeling helpless because I can’t provide the level of physical care that she needs now.
2. Feeling helpless because I know that soon I will lose the second light of my life.

 Feeling helpless because I can’t provide the level of physical care that she needs.

  I have been married to my wife for 45 years and taking care of her needs. After two years she had a stroke (complication from surgery). Her needs changed, so did my skill set. I learned how to help her with her therapy. At times I prepared her plate, cut the meat into bite size portions that she could eat and swallow easily. Made a lot of soft dishes.

  We used to watch T.V. or movies together. Go to the theaters to see first run movies, restaurants for date nights. The older we got the more help she needed and the more I helped  her. If she needed help going to the living room, I was there, if she wanted to go to church, I took her and used a wheelchair to do it. ( good thing she had a pushy husband)

 Then her health got worse, along with mine and I could no longer do anything for her. Now how do I deal with this turn of events? I turned to God to help me understand and get us through this. 

  I asked God for the strength and wisdom to get through this stage in life. And in my weakness God answered my prayer. 

  For you see on our own we are weak and with God’s strength we can accomplish much.

Phil 4:13 NKJV)

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

Also see 2 Corinthians 12:9; 1 Corinthians 2:3-5

Feeling helpless because I know that soon I will be losing the second light of my life.

  Now let me explain this statement, I called my wife my second light because Jesus Christ is my first light.

  This helpless feeling is coming from the man’s way of thinking, that we should always be able to fix or improve on everything but we can’t. My wife and I have been together for 45 years. That is a lot of time spent together, we have fallen deeper in love over the years and she will be severly missed.

 My wife is dying and I cannot fix this, only God can. Just putting this down in print does make it final and my heart really feels the pain and emptiness knowing she will be leaving soon.
 

  There will be a hole or empty spot in my heart that will need to be filled. It will be filled only by God, and it will be filled the way He wants it done.

  Now going through the scriptures looking for the correct ones to use, God speaking to me and teaching me, God taught me that I was not as helpless as I thought. There is prayer, I had a lot of people praying for my wife and me. The church I am a member of, they are praying all the time, the Men’s Ministry, and church leadership.

  My sister-in-law’s church. My other sister-in-law, other friends of ours.

  And now the big one there is God and the scripture He guided me to. Let us see where He took me. Once again there is Philippians 4:13, then there are these…

Ephesians 3:16; Colossians 1:11; 1 Timothy 1:12; 2 Timothy 2:1   

  Now here are some more verses that I am going to take a closer look at.

2 Corinthians 5:1-8 (NKJV)

1 For we know that if our earthly house, this tent, is destroyed, we have a building from God, a house not made with hands, eternal in the heavens. 2 For in this we groan, earnestly desiring to be clothed with our habitation which is from heaven, 3 if indeed, having been clothed, we shall not be found naked. 4 For we who are in this tent groan, being burdened, not because we want to be unclothed, but further clothed, that mortality may be swallowed up by life. 5 Now He who has prepared us for this very thing is God, who also has given us the Spirit as a guarantee. 6 So we are always confident, knowing that while we are at home in the body we are absent from the Lord. 7 For we walk by faith, not by sight. 8 We are confident, yes, well pleased rather to be absent from the body and to be present with the Lord.

Point One

  Here God is saying that when our earthly body (house or tent) dies we have a new one waiting for us in heaven, one He has made, which will never decay.

Point Two

  For us christians this is a good thing,for we know that we have eternal life with our Lord and savior Jesus Christ.

Point Three

  The best part is that God has guaranteed this with the gift of the Holy Spirit

Point Four

  We do not need to worry about our bodies when we die because it will turn to dust, but our spirit will immediately be with the Lord.

John 14:1-3 (NKJV)

1 “Let not your heart be troubled; you believe in God, believe also in Me. 2 “In My Father’s house are many mansions; if it were not so, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you. 3 “And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and receive you to Myself; that where I am, there you may be also.

John 14:27 (NKJV)

1 “Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.

  We are told that when calls us home that Jesus will come and receive us Himself. He also gives us His peace and with it we may still grieve but it will be easier to deal with.

  So as you see with all this that has given to me by God I am not ever been helpless, maybe hapless but never helpless.